Our inner peace can be influenced by
our environment. The people around us and the circumstances that we
encounter daily can deeply affect our mood which intern, can alter
our peace. Therefore, we must learn to be in control of our
emotions at all times, especially in our homes. However, this can
be difficult at times. Conflicts between family members, especially
between husband and wife, are more common than most of us
anticipate. During some circumstances, misunderstandings can
certainly escalate to aggressions and sometimes lead to verbal
abuse. This is definitely not a healthy environment for peace or
contentment.
Thankfully, there are ways to help you
control your emotions and avoid ruining your inner peace and
contentment in your home.
Tips to Help Avoid and Resolve
Conflicts in Your Homes
- Rather than arguing over a matter,
try to stay calm and relax when an issue arises. The usual culprit
for conflicts is misunderstandings which leads to arguments over
who’s right or wrong. When you disagree about something, it’s not a
matter of who’s right or wrong but to listen to understand your
family member’s point of view. Arguments are usually clouded by
strong emotions, therefore, remember, it’s not what you say but how
you say it.
- Keep in mind and master the art of
compromise. A win-win mindset can often yield the best outcome
during potential conflicts. This essentially means to always seek a
balanced solution where both or all sides can be satisfied.
- Don’t get too worked up over trivial
matters or things that aren’t important. First, decide whether or
not the issue is worth arguing over. In other words, avoid,
pointless debates that may cause tension between you and your
household member.
- When a disagreement is unavoidable,
listen carefully and focus on finding a solution rather than trying
to win an argument. Disagreement with a family member will most
likely happen, but keep in mind that trying to win an argument all
the time will most likely lead to gradual tension in your home and
the tendency for more conflicts in the future. Winning arguments do
not earn you a trophy but concessions can go a long way to smooth
things out. Resolve conflicts as soon as possible to not let it
fester and linger because, over time, the problem will most likely
get worse. Don’t overthink it.
- Look beyond the issue to see the
other party’s value to you. Remember, your home is your castle
where love and compassion should always reside. Your ego should be
left outside before entering your home and family should always be
paramount. Your home is your comfort zone where peace is fostered
through unity and common objectives.
